Sunday, February 20, 2011

A LOVE STORY MAKES YOUR HEART SING

I read this recently and recalled my visit to the Ghetto.  My feeling when I was simply riding through in a tour bus was shivering.  I cannot imagine how it would have been to actually live there. I was in Poland doing a project for USAID and meeting the people and seeing the places made my heart really cry.  Just think in the midst of all the horror, love wins.

My posting tonight, however, is really in honor of my friend who is helping a couple with many memories like this one, spend their last days on earth.  She has for years honored them as her friends with a heart as big as the heart of the little girl.  I respect you and am glad to call you friend!

A Girl With An Apple
(This is a true story and you can find out more by Googling Herman Rosenblat. He was Bar Mitzvahed at age 75)
August 1942. Piotrkow , Poland .
The sky was gloomy that morning as we waited anxiously. All the men, women and children of Piotrkow's Jewish ghetto had been herded into a square. Word had gotten around that we were being moved. My father had only recently died from typhus, which had run rampant through the crowded ghetto. My greatest fear was that our family would be separated. 'Whatever you do,' Isidore, my eldest brother, whispered to me,'don't tell them your age. Say you're sixteen.I was tall for a boy of 11, so I could pull it off. That way I might be deemed valuable as a worker.An SS man approached me, boots clicking against the cobblestones, and then asked my age 'Sixteen,' I said. He directed me to the left, where my three brothers and other healthy young men already stood.My mother was motioned to the right with the other women, children,sick and elderly people.I whispered to Isidore, 'Why?'He didn't answer.
I ran to Mama's side and said I wanted to stay with her  'No, 'she said sternly.'Get away. Don't be a nuisance. Go with your brothers.'She had never spoken so harshly before. But I understood:She was protecting me. She loved me so much that, just this once,she pretended not to. It was the last I ever saw of her.
My brothers and I were transported in a cattle car to Germany ..We arrived at the Buchenwald concentration camp one night later and were led into a crowded barrack. The next day, we were issued
uniforms and identification numbers. 'Don't call me Herman anymore.' I said to my brothers. 'Call me 94983.'I was put to work in the camp's crematorium, loading the dead  into a hand-cranked elevator.I, too, felt dead. Hardened, I had become a number.Soon, my brothers and I were sent to Schlieben, one of Buchenwald ' sub-camps near Berlin ..One morning I thought I heard my mother's voice.'Son,' she said softly but clearly, I am going to send you an angel.Then I woke up. Just a dream. A beautiful dream.But in this place there could be no angels. There was only work And hunger. And fear
.A couple of days later, I was walking around the camp, around the barracks, near the barbed-wire fence where the guards could not easily see. I was alone. On the other side of the fence, I spotted someone: a little girl with light,almost luminous curls. She was half-hidden behind a birch tree I glanced around to make sure no one saw me. I called to her softly in German. 'Do you have something to eat?' She didn't understand. I inched closer to the fence and repeated the question in Polish. She stepped forward. I was thin and gaunt, with rags wrapped around my feet, but the girl looked unafraid. In her eyes, I saw life.She pulled an apple from her woolen jacket and threw it over the fence. I grabbed the fruit and, as I started to run away, I heard her say faintly, 'I'll see you tomorrow.I returned to the same spot by the fence at the same time every day.She was always there with something for me to eat - a hunk of bread or,better yet, an apple.We didn't dare speak or linger. To be caught would mean death for us both.I didn't know anything about her, just a kind farm girl, except that she understood Polish. What was her name?  Why was she risking her life for me  Hope was in such short supply, and this girl on the other side of the fence gave me some, as nourishing in its way as the bread and apples.  Nearly seven months later, my brothers and I were crammed into a coal car and shipped to Theresienstadt camp in Czechoslovakia  'Don't return,' I told the girl that day. 'We're leaving.'

I turned toward the barracks and didn't look back, didn't even say  good-bye to the little girl whose name I'd never learned, the girl with the apples. We were in Theresienstadt for three months. The war was winding down and Allied forces were closing in, yet my fate seemed sealed.On May 10, 1945, I was scheduled to die in the gas chamber at 10:00 AM.  In the quiet of dawn, I tried to prepare myself. So many times death  seemed ready to claim me, but somehow I'd survived. Now, it was over.I thought of my parents. At least, I thought, we will be reunited. But at 8 A .M. there was a commotion. I heard shouts, and saw people  running every which way through camp. I caught up with my brothers.Russian troops had liberated the camp! The gates swung open  Everyone was running, so I did too. Amazingly, all of my brothers had survived; I'm not sure how. But I knew that the girl with the apples had been the key to my survival.  In a place where evil seemed triumphant, one person's goodness had saved my life, had given me hope in a place where there was none.  My mother had promised to send me an angel, and the angel had come.  Eventually I made my way to England where I was sponsored by a  Jewish charity, put up in a hostel with other boys who had survived the Holocaust and trained in electronics. Then I came to America , where my brother Sam had already moved. I served in the U. S. Armyduring the Korean War, and returned to New York City after two years

By August 1957 I'd opened my own electronics repair shop.I was starting to settle in.One day, my friend Sid who I knew from England called me.'I've got a date. She's got a Polish friend. Let's double date.'A blind date? Nah, that wasn't for me.But Sid kept pestering me, and a few days later we headed up to the
Bronx to pick up his date and her friend Roma.I had to admit, for a blind date this wasn't so bad. Roma was a nurse at a Bronx hospital. She was kind and smart. Beautiful, too, with swirling brown curls and green, almond-shaped eyes that sparkled with life. The four of us drove out to Coney Island . Roma was easy to talk to, easy to be with. Turned out she was wary of blind dates too!
We were both just doing our friends a favor. We took a stroll on the boardwalk, enjoying the salty Atlantic breeze, and then had dinner by the shore. I couldn't remember having a better time  We piled back into Sid's car, Roma and I sharing the backseat.
As European Jews who had survived the war, we were aware that much had been left unsaid between us. She broached the subject, 'Where were you,' she asked softly, 'during the war?''The camps,' I said. The terrible memories still vivid, t he irreparable loss..I had tried to forget. But you can never forget
She nodded. 'My family was hiding on a farm in Germany ,not far from Berlin ,' she told me. 'My father knew a priest,and he got us Aryan papers.'I imagined how she must have suffered too, fear, a constant companion. And yet here we were both survivors, in a new world.'There was a camp next to the farm.' Roma continued. 'I saw a boy there and I would throw him apples every day.'What an amazing coincidence that she had helped some other boy.'What did he look like? I asked.'He was tall, skinny, and hungry. I must have seen him every day for six months.' My heart was racing. I couldn't believe it  This couldn't be.'Did he tell you one day not to come back because he was leaving Schlieben?'Roma looked at me in amazement. 'Yes!'
'That was me!'
I was ready to burst with joy and awe, flooded with emotions.
I couldn't believe it! My angel.'I'm not letting you go.' I said to Roma. And in the back of the car on that blind date, I proposed to her. I didn't want to wait
'You're crazy!' she said. But she invited me to meet her parents for Shabbat dinner the following week.
There was so much I looked forward to learning about Roma, but the most important things I always knew: her steadfastness, her goodness. For many months, in the worst of circumstances, she had come to the fence and given me hope. Now that I'd found her again, I could never let her go.That day, she said yes. And I kept my word. After nearly 50 years of marriage, two children and three grandchildren, I have never let her go.
Herman Rosenblat of Miami Beach , Florida
This story is being made into a movie called The Fence.

Friday, February 11, 2011

MY TRIP TO EGYPT -- MEMORIES

Our Ship
Me at Pyramids...














In the fall of 2001  my friend Pat and I decided to do the trip of a lifetime.  We boarded a cruise ship from the Renaissance Line, now the Oceania Line, in Hong Kong and in 48 days landed in Athens.



Our Trip


 There are many memories, but for this entry, I wish to concentrate on our stop in Egypt.   I will just briefly set the stage regarding the ship.  We were on the sixth floor and had a stern room.  There were only four rooms on that end of the ship;  two small ones and two owners; suites.  Our room was so outstanding because we viewed the ports of all the cities we visited as we departed.  I did a set of these pictures and if I find them, I will share them.


Map of Canal and Port Said

We traveled through the Suez canal to the Port Said.  When we arrived, Pat and I decided to take the tour to the Pyramids.  We had taken the opportunity to do this on all of the ports of call and we were especially excited .  The trip required a rather long, about three hours, if I remember correctly, ride from the ship to the tourist site.  We drove through the city of Cairo, listened to our  guide as he explained where we were, visited the museum of Egyptian Antiquities, the Pyramids, and the Sphinx. 

Tourist Bus
When we boarded the bus, both of us almost got off and went back to the ship.  We were preceded by two heavily armed escorts.  Not only did they have automatic weapons, but were laden down with sidearms.  There were two of them in the back of the bus, and two in the front.  Scary.  One faced us, the other faced the front of the bus.  Not only did we have those folks on board, but we were escorted by jeeps, guards, and  that were very armed.  I repeat, yes, we were frightened but before we could decide we were on our way.




Military Escort
The museum was absolutely wonderful.  Some of the items were labeled so we could read, but mostly the explanation was in Arabic.  We then began the trip to the Pyramids.   We passed through what is thought to be one of the most destitute of slums and the guard gave much history.  Apparently this has existed since before Christ. 


As soon as we arrived we were bombarded with vendors and people wanting to take us on special trips through the pyramids.  The tiny door and even smaller steps discouraged us and we did not venture into them.  We did spend an hour or more wandering around the site dreaming of the centuries and the people who had walked before us.  We also declined a ride on a camel.  I had that experience in Petra and it was not one that I wanted to repeat.


Pyramids and Sphinx
We boarded the bus, dusty and tired, to return to the luxury of our ship.  As luck would have it, less than an hour outside the Pyramids, on our way back to Cairo, our bus broke down.  It was not our favorite time to watch the soldiers guarding us while the bus was repaired.  I cannot remember if we had another bus or if they fixed ours.... but it took far too long for comfort.

My one souvenir

It was dark when we returned to our state room and dropped from exhaustion.  It had been a lifetime goal to see what we had seen that day!   I have no desire to return.  Although it was in the fall the temperature was in the hundreds many days.


Museum Then.......

 Today?  I am watching the square with such interest.  The police that we encountered were polite and appeared very competent.  When it was reported that the military had pointed the guns away from the crowds and the palace, it appeared to be a statement of neutrality.  That gave me much hope.  At this moment in time, it appears that they have taken the role of guardian.  I am praying this is so and that the Egyptian people can feel the freedom that I have my entire life.  It is prophetic that the one thing I brought home was a crafty scarab.  My favorite meaning is Transformation.



 

Now




Wednesday, February 9, 2011

WHERE HAVE I BEEN?...My Lists

I woke up this morning and in that time between sleep and awareness, I thought of my travels and how excited I am to be going to North Carolina and Florida next month.  I decided to list the countries I have visited.  and later write some more detailed discussion of my experiences. I also decided to do bodies of water, my favorite things.  I know for many of you this is boring but I just wanted to chronicle my travels and some of my impressions.

Countries
  1. Canada:    Visited in the seventies for the first time and I have returned four times. Best time was when Ralph and I drove across to Jasper and then down back into Montana. took three weeks to do it leisurely.  We started by going up the coast of Maine, then over to Nova Scotia, up to new Brunswick, down to Ontario and across through all the cities. Wonderful trip.  We read to each other all the way.
  2. Mexico:   Early in the seventies, Joe and I became interested in this part of the world.  We visited four or five times.  Most complex visit was with Leah and Joe's mother.Very traumatic in that we last an entire collection of Barbies in Mexico City. That is an entree story.  I met Joe in Puerto Vallarto when he came back from India. 
  3. Puerto Rico:  Visited here several times.  First time was to survey for Joint Commission.  Policy and Procedure books in Spanish.
  4. Bermuda : On a cruise, of course.
  5. Virgin Islands: with Sterling on Disney cruise 
  6. Jamaica:  to attend a Wedding
  7. England:   At least five times, not counting changes of planes.  Best times was with Sterling and with my sister.  Lots more about this later. Time with Ralph and seeing Cheryl were also terrific.
  8. Scotland:  The beautiful Lakes with Alyce
  9.  Ireland: Coolest time with Sterling- will never forget the Ring of Kerry 
  10. Wales:  Twice visited, loved each time. 
  11. France:  Seeing Paris and surrounding area with my French Historian..unbelievable.
  12. Switzerland:  Five or six visits to the airport coming and going to Arabia, only three to really explore.  
  13. Lichtenstein:  Just a few short hours.
  14. Netherlands/Holland: My weekend visit with Katie and Villiam.  The trip into Germany to the Christmas market in Essen.
  15. Belgium: A brief visit but impressive.
  16. Germany:  Six visits.  My best time was with Jim and drinking beer.  New Years Party
  17. Poland: Such an in depth view of a war torn country. A month well spent.
  18. Romania:  A wonderful three week visit  The way that people lived during the time of communism.  Scary health care with dogs in the Emergency Room.
  19. Bulgaria: Short drive through and comfortable night.
  20. Hungary:  Two weeks of scary hospital insight.
  21. Czech Republic: Another two weeks examining hospitals and health care professionals.
  22. Turkey:  A day only.  I would love to return.  From breakfast to midnight was not enough, and only in Istanbul.
  23. Cyprus: A day on two occasions
  24. Italy:  never enough!!!
  25. Croatia:  Such a wonderful visit and place.  Almost three months. So many stories.  Finally Ralph got to see his beloved Yugoslavia
  26. Austria: Twice spending a couple of days. 
  27. Bosnia:  Just a drive through.
  28. Slovenia:  Shopping for crystal, eating in roadside restaurants.
  29. Israel:  One visit.  Driving in from Jordan and staying in the Arab sector and having an Arab travel guide.  Unbelievable. Not your typical visit.
  30. Jordon:  Five days.  The one place everyone, in my opinion should go.... PETRA.
  31. Egypt:  Scary, being escorted by armed jeeps from port to pyramids.  I don't want to go back.
  32. Oman: Traveling by car, being really taken to the cleaners by the driver...long story
  33. Dubai: A short weekend with so many stories.
  34. Djibouti: Another weekend story.
  35. Saudi Arabia:  Three years of stories, from the empty quarter to the Asir.
  36. Kuwait:  By boat and just a jump on and back on the ship.
  37. Bahrain: Four visits.  The conference for Nursing for Gulf States and speaking there, best experience.
  38. India.:  I do not need or want to go back.  It drove my husband Joe to distraction.  Many stories that took place on the soil and some that did not. His WHO team stomped out smallpox in this country.
  39. Nepal:  Magnificent, tiring.
  40. Pakistan:  Trying to recruit with people lying in the floor holding onto my feet, crying in one of the most beautiful hotels in the world.
  41. Malaysia: Kula Lampoor with its beauty.
  42. Thailand: .Four days exploring and staying in the Oriental Hotel.  Luxury
  43. China:  Seven days in the southern tier.  Such control.  Our special tour guides. Cant wait to tell you about these experiences.
  44. Singapore:  Beautiful zoo, orchid gardens and lovely garments.
  45. Viet Nam:  Three cities a day each.  So much more to see.
  46. Hong Kong:  Two visits, such stories of shopping, tea at the hotel, shopping shopping shopping.
Bodies of Water... My favorite list
  • Artic Ocean
  • Atlantic Ocean
  • Adriatic Sea   Beauty not surpassed, the week on the coast with Nancy, Ralph and family
  • Aegean Sea
  • Arabian Sea
  • Baltic Sea   Bits of amber picked up in the sand....
  • Bay of Bengal
  • Bay of Fundi
  • Bering Sea
  • Black Sea
  • Caribbean Sea
  • Celtic Sea
  • Chattahoochee River
  • Chesapeake Bay
  • Chukchi Sea  is where Barrow is.  Barrow is the most northern city of US in Alaska.  Three days here were a long time.
  • Colorado River
  • Connecticut River (Mass, NH, VT)
  • Columbia River
  • Crater Lake, Oregon
  • Cumberland River, Tenn
  • Dardanelles Strait
  • Danube River (Austria, Croatia, Hungary, Romania)
  • Dead Sea
  • Delaware Bay
  • Delaware River, Delaware New Jersey
  • Drava River, Croatia
  • English Channel
  • Euphrates River
  • Finger Lakes
  • Fraser River, Alaska
  • Great Lakes
  • Gulf of Aden
  • Gulf of Alaska
  • Gulf of Aqaba
  • Gulf of Bahrain
  • Gulf of California
  • Gulf of Maine
  • Gulf of Mexico
  • Gulf of Oman
  • Gulf of Suez
  • Gulf of Thailand
  • Gulf of Tonkin
  • Hudson Bay, Canada
  • Humboldt River, Nevada
  • Illinois River
  • Indian Ocean
  • Ionian Sea
  • Irish Sea
  • James River, VA
  • Kansas River
  • Kennebec River
  • Kentucky Lake
  • Kentucky River
  • Lake Barkley
  • Lake Champlain
  • Lake Erie
  • Lake Geneva
  • Lake George
  • Lake Huron
  • Lake Lucerne
  • Lake Meade
  • Lake Michigan
  • Lake Okeechobee
  • Lake Ontario
  • Lake Pontchartrain
  • Lake St. Clair
  • Lake Superior
  • Lake Tahoe
  • Lake Winnipesaukee
  • Lake Zurich
  • Little Missouri River
  • Loch Lomond
  • Loch Ness
  • Long Island Sound
  • Mediterranean Sea
  • Merrimack River, MA, NH
  • Meuse River
  • Miami River
  • Minnesota River
  • Mississippi river
  • Missouri River
  • Mobile Bay
  • Narragansett Bay, RI
  • Neuse River
  • Nile River, Egypt
  • North Sea
  • North Channel
  • Oder River, Poland
  • Ohio River
  • Pacific Ocean
  • Patuxent River
  • Pearl River
  • Pee Dee River
  • Penobscot River
  • Potomac River
  • Prut River, Romania
  • Red River
  • Rhine river
  • Rio Grande River
  • St. Johns River, Florida
  • Saint Lawrence River
  • St. Lawrence Seaway
  • Salt Lake
  • San Antonio River
  • San Joaquin River
  • Savannah River
  • Sea of Crete
  • Seine River  Walking day after day with Ralph, having coffees, looking at books, learning the history
  • Squam Lake..... Beautiful.  Movie On Golden Pond was filmed here.
  • Snake River Strait of Dover
  • Suez Canal:  Have traversed the entire canal.  A magnificent work.  Sand, dunes, bleak.
  • Susquehanna River, PA
  • Thames River:  Crossing and recrossing in London. 
  • Tigris Rover
  • Trent River
  • Utah lake.
  • Wabash River
  • White River
  • Wye River, England, Wales   Sitting on the porch at Bruberry House in England and taking in the English countryside and herds of sheep looking across the Wye to Wales.
  • Yadkin River
  • Yellowstone River
  • Yukon River
  • Gulf of St. Milo

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

SUPPORT.....DEFINING THE CONCEPT

Support

What does support really look like?  Seems like this is a question that defies real definition.  But, as usual,I shall try anyhow. It is so clear that every individual person, every individual person at an age, every culture, and every family defines support differently.  A common thread that goes through the concept is that it is almost NEVER TALKED ABOUT.  As individuals we just say "Thank You" and remember as time goes on the things our folks, friends, family or even strangers, have done to be supportive.  Maybe I can even define support with a little trepidation.... I was so surprised to see what I got when I Googled....I found so many different types of definitions that I decided that examples from MY LIFE would best tell my story and maybe yours is similar. As I got into this I just knew I would miss someone, I would miss some important things, and I have missed many,  but I will take that risk.


•give moral or psychological support, aid, or courage to;
When I read this definition, I think of so many of you.  I think of
my daughter who insists I can do things I used to do,and brings little goodies almost daily,  
my sister who seems to always be lurking in the background and knows things i need before I do, I think of
my friend Jane who sticks with me no matter how bad my manners are, she has done so many things that I could never list them... one specific that I want to mention..... one little orchid she brought me when I was so afraid, hurting and had lost my way  brought hope to me,then there is
Maggi who gives me so many atta girls through her answers to my email stuff and smiles and shares her life,i miss her..... there is my cousin,
Gail, newly rediscovered, who just stops by and chats-I will never forget a few moments she stopped by when I was in Rex Rehab, i miss her
Derma's calls ever so often,
Nancy who shared her family with me in a far off place,
Nancy B's response to my blog and emails-she thinks through and shares, i miss her...
Sterling makes sure I dont stumble and fall,
Suze who makes me feel like she wants to include me in her life, little phone talks
Justin who daily does little chores i used to have to do, he will never know how much i appreciate...
my friends from college and from high school who still stay in touch, 
Pat who biked down and spent some very special time with me in the Enclave....
old friends whose phone call every week or so makes my heart shiver.
Phala, there are not words to talk about the many hours she helped me....I could never every thank her enough....
Jeff who is sensitive to old bones and muscles and provides that extra tote in from the car...
Harry who keeps me up to date about church and is always ready to escort me.

•the activity of providing for or maintaining by supplying with money or necessities;people around me who take the time to get a sense of what I need money wise or necessities.. mostly in the way of necessities.  Everyone is different, but it is for me, it is the giving of little gifts of food like the goodies my daughter brings over, or
Jim and Mary who send the little in the mail food gifts on occassions,
Maggi shared with me some paints she won, that was so wonderful.  So far, thank goodness, no money is required.  But I know the few dollars I used to give
Rose in Sanford were so appreciated but her home cooked meals were more appreciated by me
At that time, the hundred dollar bill was nothing to me, but for her was a fortune. I may be there someday. My
 Aunt Frances who knew I needed and provided from my birth until she died.
My daughter in opening her home to me


•aiding the cause or policy or interests of; "they developed a scheme of mutual support"
So many of you support my efforts at my art.
JoAnn, Maggi, people at Sertoma, Bob Burridge, and  other peers tell me to keep going as we paint together.  Then there is JoAnn's words, Go Get Um'

•back: be behind; approve of;
 I shall never forget people who gave me this support in my life.
My grandparents in their consistent belief in me through college, they told me and they told others.  There was
Phil who got me started in consultation,
Rosemary who knew I would be a good surveryor, there is
Alice who was my boss and my mentor always,
Bob who gave me such support by a job even i didn't know i could do,
Alice who believed in me for over thirty years....
Andrea who trusted me enough to come to work at Barnes,
Wally and Cheryl who stood behind me as my assistants, 
Ms P who never made a comment but so aptly knew where every paper was and was most supportive of me every day, my staff at Moore, Barnes, Arabia,
I am in real trouble here because I cant stop ..... but a special place goes to
Janice who did everything she could to make OiS successful.
My sister in all our talks and trips, but especially riding with me in the trip after trip to pick up Sterling or return him, taking me on a weekend to hear Willy, and on and on and on..to and from hospitals, shopping....
Support through the years.  Seems so sad that we cant pay everyone back or that we do not remember all until our memory is jogged....the warm and wonderful deeds we get done for us.    Thanks to all of you.......